Western Vitality

Today’s topic comes straight from the heart: Don’t let people tell you what you want. You’re the only one who gets to decide that. And if what you want doesn’t line up with others’ expectations, well, that’s their problem, not yours. Now, let me tell you a story.

I come from a long line of divorce. My parents, grandparents, and even my great-grandparents are divorced! Don’t overthink it, though—it’s a fast track to that “I’m doomed” mindset. Been there, done that. Statistically, I should be failing at marriage! But I met my husband when I was 18, and I knew right away I wanted to marry him. I don’t think we’d even known each other a month, and I was already thinking about forever. Crazy, right? But I just knew. He was smart, kind, logical, strong, could fix just about anything, and, most importantly, he made me laugh. That was huge for me because, growing up, fun and laughter weren’t really a thing.

Now, I’m not saying you should marry someone just because they make you laugh and can fix stuff. What really sealed the deal for me was that we shared the same values. We were both members of the same faith, had the same goals, and lived the same lifestyle, which made things a lot easier. I mean, can you imagine marrying someone with a totally different way of life and then having to change everything to fit theirs? No thanks. In our case, it was horses and dogs. I was a horse and dog trainer before we met, and he just so happened to do the same thing. It was like the universe was giving me a high five.

Anyway, enough with the sappy stuff. When I was 18 and talking about marriage, people lost it. My dad, especially, told me to wait, that I was too young to know what I wanted. I heard it all—”You should date for a few years, live together first, see how it goes.” But I never doubted for a second that this was the life I wanted. So I went ahead and got married anyway, and I have zero regrets. Being married is the greatest blessing. Yes, I was young and had a lot of growing up to do, but we’ve been able to grow together. The key is supporting each other’s dreams and goals, not holding each other back.

My point is this: Do not let people tell you what you want. If you want to travel the world solo, go for it. If you want to be a doctor, do it. If you want to sell everything and live in a van to be closer to nature, more power to you. You get what I’m saying.

Alright, I’ve got to get ready for the day—got some dogs to train—and my husband and I are headed to a pumpkin patch tonight. Can’t wait!